Vaginal Numbness: Overcoming Trauma and Restoring Sensation. - Lila Rasa

Vaginal Numbness: Overcoming Trauma and Restoring Sensation.

Ladies, let’s talk about something that impacts a lot of women, but no one really talks about it.  A significant number of the women that I have worked with and talked to have believed at some point that their vaginas were broken due to numbness, pain and/or irritation during sex.  

By examining trauma and how it functions in the human body, we learn that it causes desensitization, pain, and numbness. Therefore, trauma and vaginal numbness have a direct link to one another.


A lack of vaginal sensation is so widespread in our culture that mainstream sex education tells us that most female bodies aren’t even capable of having vaginal orgasms, and the clitoris is the key to sexual satisfaction for women worldwide.


Even I have at some point thought that I wasn’t going to experience vaginal or cervical orgasms- all of which I have now experienced by journeying to sensitise my body. Also, it allows for emotional release to happen in the process as we store a lot of unprocessed emotions in our yoni. 


Examining Trauma 

When we are touched, and we feel like it crosses a boundary this stored reaction becomes stored energy in the body. Whether this is having sex when you aren’t in the mood or someone touching your body without your permission. We store the emotions we experience as stored energy in the body. This creates tension and we hold onto the energy instead of allowing it to move.


In his book, ​​” The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma,” Bessel van der Kolk comments:

“Trauma victims cannot recover until they become familiar with and befriend the sensations in their bodies. Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard. Angry people live in angry bodies. The bodies of child abuse victims are tense and defensive until they find a way to relax and feel safe. In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past.”


Here this physical awareness he is talking about relates to allowing yourself to experience the sensations that you were suppressing. Allowing them to come to the surface and process them. This time in a safe environment, one where space can be held for your process. By doing this we allow this stored energy to move through the body, instead of staying stagnant and creating dis-ease. 

Your emotions are telling you a story.

Emotions are energy stored in the past. Our brains, being so objective, don’t know the difference between an event happening right now and one of a memory of the past. Therefore, when emotions come up, we are often transported to the past instead of the present. 


By continuously experiencing or revisiting a thought or emotion. We condition the emotion into the body. The body becomes bound to chemical reactions, subconsciously conditioned to be the mind of that emotion. Resulting in the trauma now living in the body as well as the brain.


If thoughts are the language of the brain and feelings are the language of the body, and how we think and how we feel make up our state of being, then it makes sense that this person’s entire state of being is becoming hardwired and emotionally conditioned to the past.


By emotionally reliving the event, we are hardwiring the brain's neural networks to be wiring the same circuits, making it more automatic every time we experience this. This also means that the body has been manufacturing the same chemicals and hormones every day, helping your body into that state. The cycle then continues. 


Where you place your attention is very much where you place your energy. If your focus is on other people or a past event that you feel is responsible for your pain, then you are allowing that event or person to hold you “emotionally hostage.” 


You are giving away your energy. Instead, we can turn inwards and take responsibility for the way in which we feel. Forgiving ourselves and others for the past and working to release the trauma and emotion from our body, so we can use and access that energy- instead of storing it. 

Why Crystals?

For centuries, the healing properties of crystals have been revered and held in high regard. These crystals have a constant, unwavering, and subtle energy, which contrasts with our human nature susceptible to emotional fluctuations. Our lives are influenced by various factors such as our surroundings, emotions, and interactions with others. By introducing crystals into the energetic fields of our bodies, they naturally instil a sense of security and steadiness.


By attuning ourselves to our inner being and developing an awareness of the crystal's energy, we can unlock heightened levels of sexual pleasure and rejuvenate sensation in intimate areas like the yoni. This process of rekindling sensitivity encompasses not only the spiritual realm but also manifests on a physical level. 


By slowing down and immersing ourselves in this practice, our minds establish neural connections with the nerves in the vaginal region, paving the way for novel pathways to pleasure. Mindfulness and focused attention have the potential to amplify sensitivity and foster neural connectivity.


Vaginal Numbness 

Trauma can result in desensitization, pain, and numbness in the body, but in particularly the yoni.


I had to work on sensitising my yoni because I subconsciously learned to disassociate from my body because I didn’t feel safe. Growing up, the discomfort of being touched when I didn’t give permission, or looked at by older men really impacted me. Even if this was a hug, this emotion of feeling violated sat deeply embedded in my emotional memory of the past. Carrying through to the present as dissociative patterning. I numbed out because the sensations I was feeling were too overwhelming. I stored energy in my yoni.


This energy needed to be seen, felt and transformed into energy that can be released and used for other things. 


Once you work on bringing yourself out of the past, into the present and allow yourself to feel the sensation- the healing happens. Vaginal numbness is something that impacts so many women, by placing awareness we invite sensation back. 

Working with a Yoni Wand

Working with the steady frequency of a crystal can be highly beneficial. They help to hold you through the process, supporting you in your transformation.

A practice for vaginal numbness.


  1. Start by journaling. Ask yourself questions to prompt the journal. “What is my emotional state right now” and “How have I benefited from experiencing numbness in my vagina?” 
  2. Begin your practice. Bring your wand into your lap. Close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Allow yourself to drop in. Here slow deep breaths to anchor you to the present moment.
  3. Connect with the crystal. When ready move your wand over to your heart. Breathe in and visualize the crystal and your heart infusing with energy.
  4. External Massage. Start with the external, massaging the outer lips of the vagina, taking your time to explore the sensations of this touch.
  5. Internal Massage. When ready move to the inside lips, and rub the crystal around the inner labia and clitoral hood. Massage the opening of your vagina, ask permission and allow her to tell you when to enter. When ready, press the crystal in different areas inside the vagina. Here having a heightened awareness of which areas feel tender, if any areas bring discomfort or numbness, and where you experience pleasure. This type of massage will increase blood flow and help move any trapped energy.
  6. Closing. Take the crystal and bring it back to your heart. Give gratitude for yourself and your crystal for creating space for healing. 
  7. Journal. Write down what you experienced. Take note of any new sensations that arise. Did anything come up for you?

Starting a practice to work on you, is extremely empowering. Our crystals are here to support you in your transformation. 

*Practice good hygiene by washing your crystals with warm water and neutral soap after each use. Regularly cleanse them energetically through techniques like smudging or moonlight cleansing.
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